Obituaries

Raymond Harry Stillman

February 23, 1953 - June 27, 2021

STILLMAN, Raymond Harry: As Harry has always been wont to do, in the spirit of doing things his way, he decided recently to wrap up his adventures in this world and left us in the beginning of June. His intellect, loyalty and amazing sense of humor will be missed by those who really knew and loved him.

Harry was the only child born to Fanny Burdick and James Sisson Stillman on February 23, 1952 in Westerly, RI. He lived his formative years in Westerly, attending the local schools and graduating from WHS in 1970. After moving to New London, CT in the late 70’s he received his Bachelor’s from the University of New Haven, graduating summa cum laude. He was employed as a carpenter and was an avid golfer. He played most of the local courses as well as taking it on the road throughout the US. It was during one of those outings down in SC that he became a founder and charter member of TFGGA. You must be thinking, what is that? It stood for Three Fat Guys Golf Association!

Although raised as an only child, he subsequently learned of two half-sisters from his dad’s first marriage, Diane and Betty, and after their dad passed, they established a loving and meaningful relationship.

In addition to his sister Diane Callaghan (Uncasville, CT), Harry leaves to cherish his memory of a period of time well spent as a family, Joseph (Waterford CT) and Andrea Hodge (Tualatin OR) as well as their mother Lynda Hodge Gorman (Old Lyme, CT); special long-time friends Lou Toscano (Westerly, RI) and Dustin Saunders (Bluffton, SC) who were the other two members of their beloved TFGGA; and his most recent constant fur-baby companion, Top Cat who will be adopted by a trusted friend.

A Remembrance Service will be held on Sunday June 27th at the Impelliteri-Malia Funeral Home, 84 Montauk Ave, New London from 11am – 1pm. At Harry’s request, a lively celebration of his life is planned immediately following at the German Social Society Frohsinn Club in Mystic at 54 Greenmanville Ave, a place he frequented occasionally. Harry would not want a tearful send-off but rather a rowdy party where those who knew and loved him can come together and share their laughter, stories and memories about him with one another. Hope you can make it!

In lieu of flowers, donations in his memory may be made to either the Connecticut Humane Society, 169 Old Colchester Road, Quaker Hill, CT or the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Connecticut Chapter.